Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Why i despise prejudice against illegal immigrants

It always angers me when i hear people say “Illegals need to go back to their country.” It also disgusts me when American Christians hold to this point of view. I'm an American citizen but i am also Mexican. Being American is a curse because many Americans are full of self entitlement. Many are full of selfishness and have no regard for any other people but their own. I grew up with mostly Hispanics and blacks, understanding the struggles of being poor. I wondered why we didn't have enough to buy what we wanted, only what was needed for survival. What i went through was nothing compared to what my family went through. My family grew up in the Mexican version of the hood.

They lived in a time where you had to pay out of pocket for a hospital to give birth. Parents had to bring their kids into child labor because they needed more money to support themselves. If their children were fortunate then they would go to school. Here, you have supplies provided and free lunch, transportation, etc. In my mom's hometown, you didn't have that. You had to go to school walking on dirt roads or paying for a public bus because cars were for the rich. Crowds rushed on the bus and if you got left behind, no one cared. If you were a girl, older men would take advantage and grope you (My mom fell victim to that). When you got off, you might had possible rapists follow you around. The school had no desks, chairs, supplies, air conditioning, floors, police protection, library, cafeteria etc. You had to bring your own food and supplies. You had to fend for yourself after that. You think they'd stand strong for their education? No. At times, gangs came on campus with pipes, chains, bats, etc. And senselessly beat people for the sake of it. The police, teachers, students would flee home as the gangs would declare the place their territory. My mom left because her education was disrupted. Government would not pay for college because it was for the rich.


It was impossible to find a library and if you did, there was no checking out books or conditions suitable for learning. Teens as young as 13 married and began life as adults, working in any way they could to make money. Anything was legal in Mexico as long as you bribed the cops or didn't get caught. Mexico was full of crimes and you couldn't turn to the cops because 1) There was no phone that could call them fast enough. Meanwhile, you had to defend yourself from whatever came your way 2) They were just as criminal as anyone else. They would demand excessive amounts of money from civilians while criminals could bribe the cops to do their bidding. 3) They were very unprepared. Many thieves are experts in stealing. If you so much as blink an eye, your valuables could be gone. My mom told me that one method of stealing was to use a knife to slash an opening in someone's purse as valuables fell out for thieves to loot. In Truth, the police work for the criminals. If a gang controls an area, the police usually submit to their demands. In Mexico, never place your hope in cops because they might be the ones who pull up on you and kidnap you or look the other way when you are the victim of a crime. Any police chief that seeks to stand up against crime is usually killed by a crime organization within a short time. Some try to claim that Mexico has the resources to fix itself as a democracy, but the government is controlled by criminals. Elections are rigged, so votes are useless. In fact, any politician seeking to work for the good of the people is bribed to leave or assassinated. Not even businessmen are safe from crime. There are cases of thieves who take their families hostage and demand their riches or threaten to end their lives.

Many Americans are ignorant of what illegal immigrants from other countries face. It is time for us to take a stand and realize that we are all humans trying to survive. 

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Loving yourself

I'm here to tackle a problem in many people today: Low self esteem. I will admit low self esteem, self hate, negativity, you name it defined me. These were problems that i've been struggling for years. I've hardly ever had any time to develop any sense of self because i had no life. I will give a few insights into how to get out of it and love yourself to the fullest.

1) Appreciate yourself – Recognize that you are a unique individual. I used to not like my appearance or having curly long hair when i found that i couldn't change. I realized that alot of people considered me a very handsome young man. Many desperately wanted my natural curls and it made me value myself more.

2) Turn negativity into positivity – The problem with people is they think about the negative outcomes such as “What if i ask this girl out and she says no? What if i don't get the job? What if people don't like me? Etc.” When opposite is likely to happen “What if the girl says yes? What if i get the job? What if people do like me? Etc.” Stop defeating yourself and motivate yourself to do better.

A. Never chase pessimistic guy/girls – Never go for a girl/guy who has low self esteem, indecisiveness, pessimism, dishonesty, unfaithfulness, and won't give you a chance. If they can't appreciate themselves how can they appreciate you? If they have low self esteem, he/she will be negative and will drain the life out of you. If they can't defend themselves, how can they defend you? Stay away from establishing a relationship with these people. You deserve better and should seek girls/guys who have admirable qualities. 

3) Stop looking for approval from others – A sign of insecurity is seeking approval from others for the quality of your life which is very destructive. It's not possible to please everyone because there will always be people who don't like you and nothing you do will change that. Look inwardly and approve of yourself.

A. Get your own dress style – I used to believe that the choice of clothing didn't matter, but clothes helps shape your identity. For example, i love wearing dark clothes and shoes. I love wearing loose black jeans with unique designs and large t-shirts with Christian artwork. I get alot of attention everywhere i go. Try wearing caps, specific types of shoes, shirts, belts, etc. And get comfortable.

B. Listen to new types of music – Stop letting people judge you for what you like. I was a huge metal-head in the past but worried about what the metal community would say if i began experimenting with new types of music. Eventually, i explored new types of music and learned to appreciate music for what it is.

4) Build confidence – Learning to trust yourself is very hard when you have no trials to overcome so find new hobbies and activities of interest.

A. Have a unique way of communication – Don't just talk to people, but develop a love for socialization. Practice talking to yourself in the mirror and put emphasis in the way you communicate. Don't just say “Hey..i'm fine..” make the conversation interesting, but also yourself. For example, I'm someone who loves to laugh and make others laugh so sometimes i will joke around during conversations. I love to talk about a variety of topics but mostly on deep theological concepts. Ask questions to get to know someone and learn how people work. If someone is calm and relaxed, talk to them calmly. If the person loves to laugh then add humor.

B. Don't be obsessed with just one activity – Never devote too much time to one activity or person that you lose sight of yourself. You need to create balance in life.

5) Evaluate friendships – Do your friends treat you negatively? Make fun of you? Use you to get ahead? Flirt with you to get what they want? Most likely they're not your friends. If you get rejected or a person doesn't want to be your friend, stop merging your identity with them because that's what causes self esteem to be hurt. You don't need them to be confident. Find new people who accept and love you. 


6) Be honest – Take the time to look at your strengths and weaknesses. Acknowledge that your not the most horrible person on earth but neither are you perfect. Your human with the goal of progressing in life.

These are all essential to loving yourself and spreading the love with the world. Practice these principles and you will stop living in self-defeat.