With the rise of social media, the definition of a friend has changed dramatically. Many have forgotten what it means to establish genuine friendships. With just a click of a button, you can accept or end a friendship. This is problematic because many people have forgotten what a true friend means. The internet is changing one of the most basic social bonds in our lives. If you are confused as to who your true friends are, here's several tips to help you:
* What values do you share? - What are values that you uphold? Are you honest, kind, compassionate, loving, respectful? If you are, you will likely attract people who are also the same. Demonstrate that you have these values and sooner or later, you will win friends.
* What are your goals? - What are things you want to accomplish in life? What experiences do you share with others? What attitudes do you show on a daily basis? If you have common dreams with others, you will unite with them.
* Common interests - Friends share similar hobbies such as making music, playing games, sports, and so forth. It's what strengthens bonds between friends. If your friends aren't interested in learning about your passions, they're not your real friends.
* Real friends support you - Your real friends have your back even when they have nothing to gain. Fake friends are only there when it benefits them and when it doesn't, they abandon you. Fake friends cut you out of their lives when you make mistakes, but real friends support you. They give you advice and give insights into what you did wrong. They are there to listen.
* Real friends are loyal - Your real friends will always make time for you. They won't make excuses for why they can't talk to you. They will make an effort to stay in your life. If there are conflicts, they will resolve them with you. If you have friends who won't do this, it means they don't value the friendship enough to resolve them. When disaster strikes, fake friends will be the first to betray you so they can get to safety.
* Fake friends disrespect you - They will constantly tease you and make you feel worse about yourself. They will laugh at you rather than with you. False friends will gossip about you behind your back. True friends on the other hand don't do this. They will boost your confidence.
You can't be popular with everyone. I find that most often, the people who have tons of friends are insecure. They want to be desperately liked by everyone so they will compromise their standards for popularity. They want to fill a void within themselves. After all, who wouldn't? Even the most famous celebrities suffer from low self esteem. There is only way to gain confidence and that's not through being popular. How can you boost your confidence?
* Destroy toxic friendships - I suffered from depression and low self esteem, blaming myself for whatever went wrong. It was then that i realized to break that cycle, i had to change the environment i was in. Since then, i started cutting fake friends out of my life and my confidence improved. To be confident, socialize with confident people. Stop hanging around people who have nothing to contribute but negativity. Stop hanging around people who don't give you a second thought during the day. People who will only support you when the price is right are people you are better off without. Take control of your life and befriend successful people working to see you succeed.
* Avoid disloyal people - When you've wronged your friend, make amends but don't make excuses for them. They are just as responsible for their actions as you are. Why invest so much energy and time on someone who does not give you the slightest thought? It is sad to see a friendship ruined but it takes two to build one. You control your own actions, thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. You learn from your past mistakes and leave them in the past. They don't define who you are. You are the person who grew wiser because of them. If someone cannot accept the reality that we all make mistakes, it is his or her own problem. When you did all you could do to resolve conflict among friends and they don't respond, free yourself from guilt. No amount of hurt can keep a friendship from being destroyed. If someone refuses to befriend you because of one incident, it's their choice.
* Improve your current ones - Stay in contact with your current friends. Be supportive of them by giving them advice and being there to listen. Resolve conflicts and set healthy boundaries. When you keep giving to others, you will receive and be a better person.
* Make new friends - You must trust in your ability to establish friendships with new people. Step out of your comfort zone and be engaging with others. Begin by finding similar interests and establishing solid communication. Keep them in contact.
In time, you will realize who your real friends are and who aren't. Subscribe and let me know your thoughts below.
